I just recently looked at mine again and, honestly, it was completely cringe worthy. So cheesy. So detailed. Definitely in need of a revamp. I had legit categories!
I had this perfect man on paper that I know I will never find. It's impossible or any man; no matter how Godly, no matter how wonderful, that was going to fully fulfill each and every one of the points on my list. Definitely need to sit down and pray though this one!
I do believe it's important to know what you want in a man, and to have it written down so you can look at it, not just have it in your head. When making this list it's important to list the things that are 100% must have and must not's. The deal breakers. For me personally those things include he has to be a Jesus lover, had to love kids, a non smoker, he had to have good control of his temper ,and is an encouraging person who drives me to keep bettering myself.
I might talk more about this specific list later on in another post but what I really want to focus on right now though of the other "lists" to make in addition to what you want in a man.
The first one, and what I think is the most important one, is a self reflection / self improvement list. Look at the list you made about your man. What things on there do you need to work on personally? A couple of things or me are money and time management. Those are things that I want my future husband to be be good at, but I need to work on myself. We can't expect someone else to put in the work and be/do things that we aren't doing ourselves.
Another list to make is what do you want your relationship to look like? And I'm not talking all of the cheesy, romantic stuff like what will all your dates look like (but we all have our list of dream dates and there is nothing wrong with that!). I'm talk about the deep stuff. How will you build each other up? How will it impact those around you? How will it effect each others individual relationship with God? Things like that. This is an idea that I was recently introduced and is still a new concept for me so I am still working on mine, but I will share some of it with you all when it's done.
I know this may seem like a lot, and may seem a little ridiculous and unnecessary, but I believe that it is so important to have a clear idea of what you want before going into a relationship. Know what you are looking for in a man, know what you want a relationship to look like, and what you need to work on in your own personal life to better prepare you for a relationship.
And while you are making these lists PRAY! Have a conversation with God. Ask Him what He wants for you in a man and in a relationship Ask Him to show you the areas in your life that need worked on to better prepare you for a relationship, whether you have been in one in the past or not.
I also want to point out, allow these lists to grow and change with you. The more you go through life the more you will know about yourself and what you want. I have seen that a lot in myself in the past couple of years (maybe more on that later.) These are not set in stone once you have them written, they are allowed to change.
Well, I hope you enjoyed this post and I hope you enjoy making your lists and dreaming abbout your future.
Until next time,
Tierra Rose
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